God is a relational being and created us as relational beings also. When God created man he said, it is not good for man to be alone. What this simply means is that we need to be in relationship with other people to function properly. Whether it's with a spouse, family or friends, we need relationship in our lives.

We are designed to need God and each other for moral support and inner growth. We all need affection and attention. So this isn't something we should feel bad about. Needing somebody else's affection and attention is actually normal.

To build self-esteem we have to be cautious of this because if we are not, we tend to think that we don't need each other and develop a sense of bitterness for other people inside of us. We develop a "I can do it all on my own mentality", which draws people away from us.

We are amazing beings, that is true, God created us that way. But we have to learn to find a balance in all things. We have to be self-aware but not self-centered. So even though it is true that you can do many things without the help of others you still need other people to achieve wholeness in yourself. This is what healthy self-esteem is all about. It's not about isolating yourself, but seeing how other people can contribute to your inner growth.

The Bible says how iron sharpens iron so a man sharpens a friend. What does this mean? If you think about it the only way iron can sharpen iron is through forceful contact. In other words they have to bang against each other. So this isn't talking about nice friendly contact is talking about the type of contact that can bring pain and discomfort.

This is how we should see our relationship with other people. Whether you like them or not, whether they hurt you or not, our thought should be how can this experience help me grow as a human being. What does God want to teach me from this? How can I use this to help others? 

Our experiences with people whether good or bad can make us stronger, they can make us sharper. This all contributes to the building of our self-esteem and the building of our inner person. 

So don't isolate yourself from people, seek healthy relationships, learn from the bad ones and see how you can contribute to the well-being of society. 

Love God, Love Yourself, Love Others.